Why is dating so frustrating and difficult for a guy?

Dress well. Maybe the chick you’re after is into stained techie t-shirts with holes in it, but that’s not the way to place your bets. Wear clothes that fit well, shirt with a collar, pants with a belt, clean shoes.

Here’s the most important thing to remember, and this transformed my dating life. Rejection is not an objective assessment of your worth as a man. Rejection means only that you and the woman you approached, for whatever reason, were not compatible at that time.

Now, given today’s culture, I can suggest you approach it as a video game. You need all the powerups you can get.

Hi everybody! I have been looking at posts on narcs and narc abuse on here and if has really helped me out a lot. I am currently struggling with my situation and need some advice/support. I met a narc last year, everything seemed to good to be true. Love bombing, always texting calling and taking me on dates. Everything changed when someone warned me about him out in public in front of him and who he is. This caused a conflict with us and the love bombing seized. he would tell me that everything is okay and i can come and talk. He would set a time limit on me and kick me out after that. he would then text me like everything was fine and we hung out again and after that he completely ghosted me for one week. He came back and texted me a week later laughing about the ghosting and acting like nothing had happened. he continued to text me ( not like in the beginning) make plans with me, then on the day of the plans he would just ghost me. One day he would act interested the next silence. i contacted him a month later and he acted like nothing happened. He was on a vacation and sent me a picture of another woman ( someone he allegedly met on the trip) to strike a reaction but i never gave him one. After the trip he came to my place and was extremely rude, accusing me of going on dates with a bunch of men. The next day he accused me of being an alcoholic and that he wanted nothing to do with me but said well maybe we can be "friends" then ghosted me i assumed at this point it was over and i would never hear from him again. He contacted me on the holiday a month later acting like everything was great. We ended up hanging out a month or so later and when we hung out it went well, i thought things were going in the right direction. after we hung out.. silence. I would try to text him and if he replied it would be very short then he just stopped replying. He ghosted me for almost three months. I thought he was done this time and of course he popped up again like nothing happened. At this point i was getting sick of if so i questioned him as to why he dissapeared and always does this. Of course he had some sob story about a injury and family member dying of cancer. I felt pity for him and he gave me an apology.. so i took him back stupidly. things seemed to be going smooth for a couple months, of course until his family member died and his injury got better he never contacted me and was distant. Menawhile, i was there for him during the difficult time for him. He lied to me about the funeral and never wanted to chat. I was chasing him and he would always claim nothing was wrong but when i said i thought he used me when he was down he could not handle it and would always tell me he didnt care and to go away. I would get so upset i would try texting him to work it out he would barelt respond and if he did he would not be nice about it. we did hang out a couple times after that, he would ignore me after. One day i was like hey i think you are seeing someone else, and i was like well ixam seeing someone so no problem if you are he said " buy bye good luck with your new guy stop contacting me" i was devastated and tried to get into contact with him for weeks then i just gave up and accepted it was over. He ended up contacting me a month later acting like everything was fine. He wanted to go out and have drinks i told him i would. He and i both seemed to have a great time. He ends up ignoring me again. I kept texting him trying to figure out what was wrong. He kept saying everything was fine and i said ok can we hang out again? He said maybe i was like why? He just kept saying maybe … our last conversation we had… i said what is wrong ? He said nothing is wrong everything is fine. I asked him why he keeps saying maybe. He said " maybe but i dont want to see you right now" i said why? He saix " im just not feeling it, if i wanted to date i would" i said why did you contact me less then a week ago wanting to go out? He said i didnt.. even though he did. So i said should i just move on or what? He said whatever you want to do. So i said that he was really confusing me and asked him if he had anything more to say before i move on? My messages were turning green so i panicked he blocked me and reacted irrationally. I said " omg did you block me? My messages are not going through. Even texted him on my work phone asking what was up. And called him twice ( please dont judge me i know it is pathetic i never was this type of girl before him) so he replied and said " Ok I'll block you now" then immedietly blocked me. He has never blocked me before since I have met him he will just ghost. Is this ths final discard aka " grand finale? Did i just push him too far? this has upset me so much its hard to even function.

If you approach a woman that doesn’t know you from Adam, bruh, that’s creepy. Here’s the deal. In her mind, if you do a cold approach, on the street, in a bar, on a bus, you are just going for her face and her body, which she has no control over. In her mind, to you she is an object, dehumanized, and that’s the first step towards rape. If you are movie-star good looking, that might work sometimes. You need to first make her acquaintance, get to know her, and let her get to know you, as a person first.

There was a time where the man was expected to persist in pursuit of his lady love in the face of rejection. That stopped being relevant when it stopped being expected for a woman to be a virgin when she got married, when women were permitted to hold down paying jobs, and handle their own finances. In other words, when women got most of freedoms afforded to men (fk you, forced-birthers). Now, if you persist in the face of rejection, that means you are unable to respect her wishes, you do not respect her, and you are being a bit rapey. Remember the rule of enthusiastic consent. Hell, yes! or Fuck no!

Learn to be charming, and I don’t just mean women. When you have a conversation, give the person your full attention. Show that you are interested in them as a person, in their opinions, in their experiences. Not too creepy though, not interrogating them. This will take practice, if you don’t already know how to do it. Remember their names. Remember the important people in their lives that they tell you about. If you remember the next time you see them, that will impress them that you really are interested in them.

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Learn to flirt. Flirting is a game, it is a technique. You give subtle indications of the woman’s desirability to you, but always subtle enough that you have plausible deniability. You learn to read her reactions. If she seems pleased, or flirts back, you can subtly escalate. If she responds the least bit negatively, you back off, and let it go, at least for now.

The above point means you need to get your ass into places where women are, and where it would be normal to have casual conversations and make acquaintance. Not online. In person. Pick some activity you might enjoy that will include a variety of people. Join hiking groups. Take adult classes. Play in a coed team sports league. You have something built-in to talk about, the activity. In my case, two such activities were meditation classes, and partner dance classes.

Hmm. This question was asked quite some time ago, but it just showed up on my feed. I see some answers I agree with, and some that are just plain stupid.

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Have good hygiene. Be clean, well groomed, clean teeth, fresh breath, smell nice, nicely groomed clean hair. If you are going to sport facial hair, it should be well groomed, but maybe pass on making it weird, if you really want to date.

Some odds and ends on this. Be kind, be compassionate. You probably don’t want to be with a woman that lacks those qualities, so don’t be a dick, yourself. Another thing is that, ultimately both women and men want to feel like they are special to someone. Making her feel special means you are interested in her as a person, making her feel loved and appreciated is important to you. There is nothing quite like the feeling of seeing a loved one’s face light up with a big smile when they see you.

This is perhaps the most important piece. You cannot take it personally if she rejects your advance. Dude, have enough confidence in yourself not to take a woman’s rejection as an objective statement of your worth as a man. You review the interaction, you think about what you might have done differently, and you learn from the experience. And they you try again with someone else.

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OK, first, most important piece of dating culture. Men are supposed to be the ones that initiate relationships. What’s this mean? It means the man must be assertive, the man must be willing to risk rejection, sometimes over and over again. Sounds shitty, amirite? By the way, I have daughters, and I have told them that if they meet a boy they fancy, don’t wait to be asked, men can be pretty fkn oblivious, and if you wait to be asked, you are limited to the boys that are both attracted to you and have the balls to ask you.

You were willing to go up against that final boss in that video game 50 times until you finally learned to beat it. Are you really going to tell me that’s more important to you than getting laid?

You learn to ask for what you want. Skillful flirting is a way to find out what the likely answer is long before you actually ask. But this is the assertive bit. You have to say what you want.

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